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The following is the third in my series of personalised wedding ceremonies that I have conducted.
Excerpts from Julie and Joe’s wedding held on Sunday 8th March 2009 at the old bandstand in the Fitzroy Gardens, Melbourne. They had flautists playing in the bandstand before the ceremony started and during the signing.
Julie and Joe met at a birthday party on 11th July 2004. It was a cold night and Julie was standing in front of the fire eating an extra large pizza by herself. She was wearing a red plastic (plether!) jacket. Joe saw her and a few things went through his mind, great to see a girl that can eat, (she was actually stuffing her face). He was also concerned that her jacket would melt in front of the fire!
The first thing Julie noticed was Joe’s eyes, and the way he spoke, easy going friendly, everything was funny. Joe knew she was a parent and they immediately had that in common. He also loved her sense of humour. Julie thought it was cute the way he immediately pulled pictures of his children out of his wallet to show her.
Joe dropped his business card in Julie’s bag but she didn’t notice it until weeks later. Joe’s kids were calling him so he reluctantly left early. She had to wait two whole days for him to ring her.
Joe said “My mate behind my back was already calling her, but I decided to be cool and do the right thing by making her wait!”
Julie said “My perfect star sign was Capricorn and Joe was Capricorn, the one I have been waiting for!”
Reading “My Friend” author unknown
I love you, not for what you are, But for what I am when I am with you.
I love you, not for what you have made of yourself. But for what you are making of me.
I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy.
You have done it without a touch without a word, without a sign.
You have done it just by being yourself.
Julie, this ring I give you, it is my personal gift
My personal promise of love and trust, and pride that you are my wife
Joe, this ring I give you, it is my personal gift
My personal promise of love and trust, and pride that you are my husband.
Celebrant (as last ring was placed)
Lord, help us – author unknown
Lord, help us to remember when we first met and the strong love that grew between us. Help us to work that love into practical things so nothing can divide us. We ask for words both kind and loving, and for hearts always ready to ask for forgiveness, as well as to forgive. Dear Lord, we put our marriage into your hands.
I was in contact with Julie last week her comments were: “We are both doing well, we still have the three step kids who were 7, 8 and 11 when we met and now 19, 21, and 23. We are not silly, enjoying our freedom and travelling heaps!”
Wedding for Melissa and Ashley
Melissa and Ashley were married on 29th March, 2008 at “The Centre” in Ivanhoe. They had hoped to be married outdoors in the rotunda in Warringal Parklands but unfortunately the weather was not kind that day so we put plan B into action. Always a good idea to have one! I felt very privileged to be able to perform the ceremony as we had known Melissa’s parents for many years and we had watched Melissa grow up and our children were friends with Melissa and her brother Jason. Melissa is a very organised young woman and the wedding and the reception ran very smoothly and it was a great day.
Melissa and Ashley had given me some information about how they met and their relationship so I could write a personal ceremony for them. They also wrote their own vows and read them from a laminated card which I had prepared for them.
The following are some excerpts from their ceremony:
Melissa met Ashley in 1996 whilst she was working with his girlfriend at the time. They were all friends together and met socially on many occasions for many years. They both had their own partners and led separate lives. Melissa was even invited to be a guest at Ashley’s wedding. It was a very enjoyable day and Melissa and Ashley had a dance together on the night even though she confessed she didn’t know how to dance!
The very next day Melissa and her partner moved to Frankston and it was 4 years later, April 2nd 2004 to be exact, by coincidence their paths crossed again. “I picked him up on an internet dating site” Melissa told me, “and really thought he was hot!” I always admired and respected the way he treated his wife. After that first internet chat they realized how happy they were together and soon became inseparable.
“Melissa is very loving, caring, generous and much more, she looks after me when I’m sick and feeling like a typical bloke when sick.” Said Ashley, She took up ballroom dancing to be with me and has come a long way from that first dance at my first wedding.
We love to go for bike rides when the weather permits or just window shopping at the local shopping centre.’
When Ashley met Melissa for the second time he fell for her bubbly personality and loved her smile and laugh. Never before had he met such a special lady, with such enthusiasm for life and drive and determination. Ashley loved the way she made him feel and made him laugh.
Ashley introduced Melissa to ballroom dancing and they now share that together. He remembers when he first said “I love you” whilst doing a modern waltz around the scout hall in Ivanhoe. They enjoy the movies (even though Melissa sleeps through many of the movies), and share a love of food hehe.
VOWS (excerpts) Ashley
Saying I care means that I will support you in everything you try to accomplish.
Because your goals have become our goals and we’ll achieve them together,side by side.
It means that I will never hurt you, that you can trust me.
It means that you can tell me what’s wrong, and that I will try to fix what I can,
That I will listen when you need me to hear
That even in your most difficult moment- all you have to do is say the word
And your hand and my hand will not be apart.
It means that whenever you speak to me, Whether words are spoken through a smile or not,
I will listen with my heart. I promise to give you all my love for now and forever
As you become my wife.
( Melissa to Ashley)
Today I become your wife and you become my husband
I will strive to give you the best of myself, while accepting you the way you are.
I promise to respect you as a whole person with your own interests, desires and needs
And to realize that they are sometimes different but no less important than my own.
Together we will face all of life’s experiences
And share one another’s dreams and goals. I promise to keep myself open to you,
To let you into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams.
I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face change as we both change,
keeping our relationship alive and exciting. and finally, I promise to love you
in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all that I am,
In the only way I know how -completely and forever.
Melissa and Ashley are still happily married and have 7 year old twins Jack and Amelia!
The following is the first of a series of stories about weddings at which I have officiated.
Mat and Emma were married earlier this year on the stunning property belonging to Mat’s parents in Bunyip State Park in Gembrook. Over the previous few days it had been quite chilly and even raining, unusual for February. However on the day the weather was stunning and the wedding was held outside in the beautiful bush/forest setting. The photographer was in heaven!
Mat and Emma had been together for many years and head three beautiful children who took part in the ceremony.
To personalise their marriage ceremony I asked Mat and Emma to share some of the highlights of their meeting and journey to the time of their marriage.
“We worked together at McDonalds several years ago and Mat’s Mum taught at Emma’s primary school where our mums became good friends, so we have known each other since we were about 9 years old”
Mat used to give Emma a lift home from Macdonald’s he was very shy then!
In Mat’s words:
Emma’s a good looking girl and she is funny. She was clumsy still is…!
We were working together at McDonalds one day and she slipped on a bun crate, caught her foot in a bucket and head-butted the wall. Maybe that was all part of the plan to get noticed?
We still have fun together and chat about anything, our relationship is all about sharing.
In Emma’s words:
Mat gave me a wink that day I scooted in on a bun crate!
Mat was a bit daggy but his smiley bubbly personality made me laugh.
He is always the jokester first one up dancing, very layback, always late. Mat is my rock and go to person, all our decisions are made together.
Highlights of their relationship are travelling through Europe together for two years before the children were born and they loved their date nights on Thursday nights. One of these nights Mat organised to go to Crown in the city. While they were outside enjoying the walk along the river with the gas flames adding atmosphere to the lovely evening, Mat got down on one knee and produced an engagement ring out of his sock!
- It is 10 years ago today that they celebrated their engagement! Mat didn’t want a long engagement…wanted to make sure he made right decision!
Now the things they enjoy doing together are watching the kids play basketball and footy on the weekends, quality family time together.
They also enjoy playing cards on Friday nights with friends and their games night dinners on Wednesday nights where they all take turns to cook… such energy 10 adults and 10 kids!
Excerpt from their vows:
You have already given me the two greatest gifts of my life: your love, and our beautiful children.
Today, it is my honour to become your husband.
I promise to continue building our family together,
celebrating our joy, comforting one another in hard times,
and strengthening our family’s future.
I vow to love and cherish you for all the days of my life.
I just spoke to Emma she is still on a high after their wonderful celebration.
The glamorous 1920’s!
Let’s go back to a time when jazz was king and flapper’s abounded.F. Scott Fitzgerald mesmerized millions, when he described life in the 1920’s. Today we are still fascinated by the rich culture and suaveness of this time period. Movies romanticizethe time periodand people try to relive it through party themes. Our next collaboration will embody the time! Enjoy as you’re transported back in time…
Ellie Mendez Photography captures this amazing journey through time.
Our fantastic hair and makeup artisan’s transform our already beautiful models into goddesses befitting the time period.
Amanda, hair stylist, reported creating the flower girl’s look bystyling with loose curls. Her hair piece really captures the 1920’s feel with her symmetrical Bob hairstyle.This bride has…
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Some helpful tips when catering for your wedding
After you book your caterer, you should feel a big weight come off of your shoulders, you have checked one huge box off your to-do list! While you should feel better about locking in such a crucial component to your wedding, the work really isn’t over quite yet. As your wedding approaches, you will need to confirm the final guest count, menu, rentals, and event hours with your caterer. Sounds easy enough, but as you start to work on the final details, you will find there to be much more involved than you expected! Here are a few ways to ease your stress and simplify your wedding catering plans.
1. Buffet Menu
Not only can a buffet be a little more budget friendly, it is also less stress for you. With a buffet menu, all you need is a final headcount. Unless you have opted for children’s meals for the little…
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yummy wedding cocktails!
Fancy a personalised twist at your wedding bar? Then how about having the bride and groom’s favourite cocktails, or even signature cocktails for your wedding day.
1 bottle Sauvignon Blanc or dry white wine
3/4 cup St. Germain
2 fresh peaches
5-6 fresh strawberries
6 fresh raspberries
1 small bunch of fresh white grapes
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more useful info about invites
Part 1 of this post looked at Save the Dates, When to Send the Invitations, What Should be Included in a Wedding Invitation and What Should be on the Wedding Invitation. This post will be looking further into wedding stationary etiquette.
- This will vary from couple to couple and will also depend on who is paying for the wedding, here are some examples of wedding invitation wording;
- Mr and Mrs John Smith request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter Lucy to Mr. Tom Parker at the church of St Peter and St Paul, Kettering on Friday, 1st September 2017 at 2 o’ clock and afterwards at the Elme Hotel.
- With their families Mr Tom Parker and Miss Lucy Smith request the pleasure of your company at their marriage.
- Mr Tom Parker and Miss Lucy Smith request the pleasure of your company at their marriage.
- As a general rule have a host line, then…
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Save the date….some hints!
Wedding stationary etiquette can be a difficult subject, most couples are now moving away from the formal, traditional and strict wording of wedding invitations, particularly as many couples are funding their weddings themselves.
Here are some helpful tips and advice on what to do (and what not to do) with your wedding stationary.
Save the Dates
- Save the Dates are a fairly new addition to wedding stationary, they have a lack of formal etiquette and they are completely optional. STDs give your guests advance warning and are particularly helpful if your wedding is in in the ‘wedding season’ or on a special day.
- Send STDs only to those you want there for the whole day i.e. the ceremony, breakfast and reception. This does mean you need to pin down your guest list way in advance.
- STDs can come in many forms from magnets to pin badges and from rustic styled…
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Everyone wants a sunny day for their wedding. Picture it: not too hot, not too windy (will ruin my hair!) not too cold (will shiver in my dress) definitely no rain please!! that will ruin everything….actually just a few clouds will be nice because they will add a bit of class to our wedding photos.
If only we could all have perfect weather but unfortunately it does rain in Melbourne and not only in winter and September. All those prospective brides and grooms out there please remember to have a plan B in case of wet weather. Believe me as a celebrant I don’t particularly enjoy getting wet and my expensive sound equipment definitely doesn’t like it….oh and did I mention the marriage certificates don’t look great when they are wet either!!
Just give it some thought you can’t change the day but you can have another plan!
1) before you even start looking – start three lists –
and ‘that’d be nice’….
Be brutal about which category they go in and then use a combination of categories to make up your perfect day with in your perfect budget….
2) have a colour palette not just a single colour – it means you can mix and match things and use shades of colours instead of being super specific on colour which ends up narrowing options – smaller options = bigger price!